No one can really explain the how it is possible to love and hate a person at the same time. Take for instance the case of spousal cheating where the cheating part itself is hateful but the cheated spouse still finds it impossible to fall out of love from the cheater. This reality is directly related to the amount of invested time and effort in a relationship.
In a relationship such as this, couples often find themselves dealing with a roller-coaster of emotions as they try to cope with the realities of the situation. One part would like to be released from the relationship while the remaining part wants to stay on. The result will depend on which part eventually comes out stronger.
It is common to see cheated spouses leaving their cheating partners in anger and disgust over the discovered infidelity only to come back, being unable to "live" without the cheater. Many do so and force themselves to go through the struggle of coming to terms with the unfaithful act that has been done by their spouses as they try to save their marriages because of love. Saving a marriage that has been disturbed by infidelity cannot be done by the cheated spouse alone.
Cheated spouses who decide to stay even after discovering spousal infidelity will have many moments of doubt and insecurity before they can truly overcome the betrayal. What the cheater does during this critical stage will account for the final result. The hating but loving stance of spouses on the receiving end of infidelity sometimes result to lowered self-esteem and respect as they run after their cheating spouses in spite of being rejected over and over again when these cheaters choose their lovers over them. Faced with this situation, cheated spouses should probably start showing more love for themselves and pick up the pieces of their lives without their cheating partners.
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