In-Law Interference

In an infidelity battle between spouses, in-law interference is usually not welcome. This is especially so when in-laws tend to tolerate and defend the cheating ways of their kin. Instead of helping to find the solution, their involvement becomes an aggravating factor in the already difficult situation.

Standards of values and morality among family members have a way of being parallel to each other. Thus, if parents show to their children that infidelity is a natural thing that happens in married life, children will grow up believing such. Those that have been brought up in a family environment that gives value to faithfulness will expect their spouses to be true to them. Two people from opposing backgrounds who eventually marry may encounter frequent clashes in views. These differing views may end up affecting not only the marriage but the children as well.

Families that tolerate spousal cheating may help cover-up the infidelity of their kin as if to conspire against the faithful spouse. They may do this not because they do not approve of the infidelity but because of the inconvenience of a full-blown fight between the spouses. Other families may react more strongly by blaming the faithful spouse for creating such a commotion over something which they believe is nothing.

There is also nothing to prevent the relatives of the faithful spouse to react accordingly. Before anyone realizes it, the affair becomes a fight between two families instead of between the spouses. In this danger lies the wisdom of seeking professional assistance in resolving marriage troubles. In-law interference laced with biases will be way too personal to be of much use to anyone. Affected couples should be able to resolve the conflict between themselves without dragging family members in the process so as to avoid long-lasting bitterness between families.