The Power of Letting Go

Do you notice how sometimes the more we hold on to something, the more it slips away? It is as if it was not meant for us. We can see certain parallelisms in human relationships when those who love insist on holding on to a cheating spouse but no avail.

Most cheaters appear to be driven away more as their faithful spouses fight for them. They feel trapped in their marriages and see extramarital affairs as their refuge. They are unable to appreciate what they have and cannot think of anything else but opting out of the relationship.

Some cheated spouses seek consolation in their cheating spouse's continued physical presence in spite of the obvious emotional absence. The fact that the cheater has not totally abandoned the conjugal home can be an encouraging sign for possible reconciliation. However, it can also be possibly due to the fact that it is still a more convenient option for the cheater and not for any sentimental or romantic reason.

A faithful spouse who has done everything humanly possible to convince a change of heart in a cheating spouse should consider the wisdom of letting go. This means surrendering the fate of the marriage to time. Many cheating spouses realize their mistakes only in actually losing the faithful spouse. After being very busy running from a seemingly desperate spouse, the cheater may find the opportunity to think things over and realize his/her mistake as the faithful spouse reacts totally out-of-character in quiet resignation.

Letting go commands its own power. It may not be as sensational as physically fighting for a cheating partner but it forces the cheater to think instead of simply reacting. When a faithful spouse finally lets go of a cheating partner, there is no guarantee that the cheater will come back. What it promises to do is to give back the power of cheated spouses to live for themselves and not for the pain brought upon by their cheating partners. There is definitely more to life than being the receiver of infidelity.