Unsilenced Doubts

Many women who have previously caught their boyfriends cheating on them go on to marry the cheater in the hope that marriage will ensure conversion towards faithfulness. In spite of an inner voice that says not to, they just had to go on and take the chance. The interesting part here is that some women are aware that their boyfriends have existing relationships with other women at the time of marriage and yet believe that everything will go away once their marriage is legalized.

The wedding appears to be a representation of legal right over a man against all other women laying claim to his affection. There is a belief or a longing that everything will turn out all right in the end after the struggles of a relationship, much like a fairytale. This expectation rarely happens in real life as unsilenced doubts continue to haunt a woman even in marriage.

There is absolutely no basis for the proposition that a marriage will stop cheating or infidelity. In fact, maternal responsibilities of a woman can effectively limit her movements with regards to keeping track of her spouse's womanizing ways. Cheating husbands will also find all kinds of justification to be unfaithful.

It is unrealistic to expect a known cheater to magically change overnight because of a wedding ceremony. Hopes of growing together in marriage may not have any foundation to lean on. Wedding jitters is not the same as entertaining serious doubts about entering into marriage with a particular person. Serious doubts that focus on the prospective lifetime partner have reasons and are not merely caused by some bout of nervousness of venturing into the unknown. If you seriously doubt the fidelity of your would be-spouse, don't expect the doubts to be silenced by marriage.