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Thursday, December 8, 2011

The Vicious Cycle of Infidelity



A married couple can go through several episodes of infidelity by one or both. The violation of trust can be so repetitive that it becomes a vicious cycle of betrayal, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Unless the situation is effectively resolved, infidelity becomes a form of abusing the cheated spouse over and over again.

The scene is very familiar. A couple starts out so in love they hardly go anywhere without the other. When disillusionment starts to set in, one becomes vulnerable to cheating and cheats. Depending on how the affair works out, the cheater can come back to the faithful spouse after a number of days,weeks, months or years. The cheated spouse forgives the erring spouse and the two reconcile. After some time, the cycle is repeated. Pregnancy can occur within this recurring cycle, increasing the number of people directly affected in the process.

There area number of reasons why someone who has been repeatedly lied to due to infidelity will choose to go through the cycle rather than leave. Concern for the welfare of the children is one reason why the vicious cycle of infidelity is chosen over the more logical option of separation. It is logical in the sense that repetitive cheating does not manifest much hope for long-term reconciliation which is necessary to rehabilitate a failing marriage.

Marriage will not stand a chance unless the cycle is broken. Cheaters can break the cycle of inflicting pain to the spouse while faithful spouses can break the cycle of accepting this kind of abuse from cheaters. A cycle has no end so it will be up to the people who are affected to get out of it.














3 comments:

  1. My Husband was so smooth at hiding his infidelity so I had no proof for months, I was referred to some hacker  and decided to give him a try.. the result was incredible because all my cheating husband's text messages, whatsapp, facebook and even phone conversations was linked directly to my cellphone. (worldcyberhackers@gmail.com ) Mr James helped me put a round-the-clock monitoring on him and I got concrete evidence and gave it to my lawyer..if your husband is an expert at hiding his cheating adventures contact Mr James via Email


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  2. My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in NewYork 2 months ago. He has been avoiding my calls and told me he is working,i got suspicious when i saw a comment of a woman on his Facebook Picture and the way he replied her. I asked my husband about it and he told me that she is co-worker in his organization,We had a big argument and he has not been picking my calls,this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr James(Worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) a Private Investigator  who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husbands Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husbands phone. where i found so many evidence and  proof in his Text messages, Emails and pictures that my husband has an affairs with another woman.i have sent all the evidence to our lawyer. I just want to thank Mr James for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof for my lawyer,I Feel so sad about infidelity.


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  3. Highly Recommended!
    I will also say this, If you know you not ready for a relationship why get into one and still cheat and liar. I was dying inside for my cheating spouse, i had no prove, no one to run to. Everyone thought i was paranoid. until i was referred to a Private Investigator/hacker Mr James by a friend. I told him about my situation and He understood me well and helped me spy on her. He got me access remotely to her Gmail account and linked all her WhatsApp and phone conversation to me directly to find out the truth.I saw all the evidence and i was heart Broken,I just want to openly say thank you to Mr James for helping me get evidence against her,i feel so hurt. If you need help please contact him Mr James via Gmail (Worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) ,infidelity hurts.

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