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Sunday, December 18, 2011

Living with the Lie



When we want something so badly, we sometimes accept things we shouldn't allow to happen. Take for example in marriage, we desperately want to believe that a spouse's cheating ways will not be able to break our marriage. We live with the lie and look the other way.

Infidelity destroys marriage even if we don't say so. It can do its work in stealth mode and still unleash its venom. It doesn't even need to be proven to destroy doubting spouses. The doubts and suspicions will eventually takes its toll even on faithful spouses who are always ready to believe on the good side of their spouses. When cheating is perpetrated continuously, it will do its harm whether the spouses like it or not.

Many cheated spouses tap on their superhuman strength and determination to steel themselves against the onslaught of betrayal. They hold on to the dream that their cheating spouses will eventually find their way back to them and totally forget about the other man or woman that has caused them to stray.

In the meantime, they hold on to the fort of marriage by acting like a loyal spouse would. They would make the necessary excuses for their cheating spouses in front of their children, their relatives, and their friends. Some are miraculously rewarded for their gallant efforts when a cheating spouse reforms but many end up living with the lie of infidelity for the rest of their married life.

1 comment:

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