Making Excuses for the Cheat

We have seen far too many cases of cheating in our lifetime to know that there are people who have been betrayed by their loved ones for another and yet make excuses for the actions of the cheater. Victims of infidelity may be our friend, our relative, our co-worker, or our neighbor. Among them, there is bound to be someone who will put no fault on his/her cheating partner to the extent of even taking the blame for it.

What is very difficult to accept as a mere onlooker is the seemingly unlimited capacity of these people to repeatedly forgive a perennially unfaithful spouse. We see them either as martyrs or plain stupid for allowing someone to continuously subject them to such derogatory pain. It can be very hard to believe that anyone could accept the truth of a loved one's unabated cheating with utmost resignation while evidently undergoing extreme pain because of the spouse's actions.

People who make excuses for the unfaithful acts of their partners might just be thinking that there will be no one else for them if and when they decide to recognize cheating for what it really is - a violation of trust in marriage. Once the fault is seen as it should be seen, cheated spouses know that they may be tempted to leave thus many choose to overlook the obvious fact of the fault of the cheater. No one should allow themselves to be abused by repeated cheating for to do so will initiate a person's lonely journey to a mere doormat.

Unless real faults are reckoned with, marriages have no way to go but downhill. Infidelity has to be recognized as a fault that can be prevented by the one committing it if he/she truly desires it. If there is one fault that cheated spouses should not commit is that of allowing infidelity to dictate the state of their relationships with their respective cheating spouses. It is unreasonable to expect fidelity where infidelity is allowed to prosper by looking the other way.