Parents are known to teach children about the basics of sibling relationship including sharing things and respecting each other's belongings. In the family, we are taught to share what we have especially when there is not much to get around with. We are also taught to respect each other's personal space even when the physical space offered by a home is limited. Sharing a spouse however is not part of this education. When we see someone become a third party to his/her sibling's marriage, we still do have the sensitivities to get shocked even in today's relatively permissive society.
We get shocked because we do not expect a member of the family to betray a person. Having to contend with another man or another woman is already complicated as it is. The cheated spouse who has to face a brother or a sister as his/her spouse's paramour may not experience any greater pain in the aspect of relationships than this. The situation reveals that not only one but two trusted persons consumated the betrayal. Even the most liberated person may find his/her skin crawling at the very thought of a sexual relationship between the spouse and the sibling.
Most people who enter into this kind of relationship know that they will hurt others and yet they do it just the same. Many have blamed "love" for it. It isn't as if there are no other available male or female bodies in this world to catch their attention but infidelity within the family does happen.
The closeness within families should make relationships stronger but sometimes the closeness between in-laws progress to a romantic or sexual relationship which destroys all other family relationships in the process. No matter how strong a temptation is , people still have a choice. Sharing a man or a woman between siblings is going way too far and to expect it to be accepted at least in our society where monogamous relationships prevail is asking too much from anyone.
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