IT'S OVER AND THAT'S FINAL!

No one can determine for sure a person's capacity to continuously be subjected to acts of infidelity by a spouse. Forgiving a cheating spouse is often romanticized as love prevailing over anything else. But is this truly how love should be especially if cheating is done over and over again?

The first cheating is usually the easiest to forgive particularly if it is the only instance. However, there are people who simply cannot accept a cheating spouse and will not risk giving second chances. The decision of whether or not a cheating spouse will be given the opportunity to redeem himself/herself ultimately depends on the cheated spouse. After all, he/she will be the one to live through it. Aside from a genuine desire to save the marriage, a cheated spouse may give that chance for other reasons such as concern for the children's welfare, fear of other people's judgement, or the refusal to accept the truth of a failed marriage.

Being subjected however, to repeated , if not blatant cheating can cause undetermined effects on a person physically, emotionally and psychologically. A person can only take so much before he/she journeys the path to self-destruction. The only way to avoid this is to get out of the relationship when it is clear that spousal cheating will not stop.

Cheaters who are repeatedly easily forgiven tend to be emboldened by their every act until it feels right. Forgiveness is taken for granted and saying sorry merely becomes perfunctory. Cheated spouses are no nearer to the solution if this situation is accepted as it is. They need to draw the line when enough is enough. So say it... Say IT'S OVER AND THAT'S FINAL!