What's With the Fighting Stance?

Ever wondered why your spouse seems to be challenging you all the time to a fight at the slightest provocation? Sometimes, the fighting stance appears to originate from nothing which blows everything out of proportion. Could it be possible that your spouse is losing his/her mind or is he/she simply trying to cover up something like infidelity?

Guilty people tend to be argumentative because they are usually unable to carry the burden of their own doing well enough to act naturally. The burden is heavier if the cheated spouse can be categorized as a good spouse who has done nothing to deserve such a betrayal. Picking up a fight for no reason is a clear manifestation of the ongoing turmoil within the cheater.

Cheaters will also try to shift the blame on their unknowing spouses by claiming to have witnessed signs of infidelity. A passing look done by the cheated spouse on a member of the opposite sex will be termed as malicious interest. Cheaters can also insist on a different meaning with friendships maintained by the faithful spouse even with no apparent change in the level of intimacy in such friendships. These actions are just meant to deviate the attention from the cheater's own actions by putting the faithful spouse on the defensive.

A full-blown fight provides a suitable reason for the cheater to conveniently walk out of the house into the arms of the lover. Since a fight would require the fighting couple to cool-off, the cheater can stay out of the house without being questioned further by the doubtful spouse. The carefully planned-out fight provides the cheater with enough time to rendezvous with the lover without having to concoct reasons to explain the absence. The cheater may choose to continue adopting the fighting stance upon going home which effectively discourages any more questioning from the faithful spouse. Nothing can be more welcome to a cheating spouse than the silence of a doubtful spouse.