Some cheaters are so downright cocky with their unfaithfulness as if sending a message to their spouses to catch them if they can. All their actions do not pretend to hide something. The only thing missing is an outright confession to the cheated spouse.
When a cheater's act is like a plea to get caught, it makes one wonder why there is a need for secrecy at all. Well for one, there is a certain thrill in secrecy which many bored spouses would find desirable. If the lack of excitement in marriage is the primary problem, cheating admittedly fills in the void.
Obvious cheating begs for attention from the partner. It is a common thought to consider doing something extreme as infidelity to "shock" the partner into providing the much-needed attention. Actually doing it is an entirely different thing because of the negative consequences associated with it. The farthest most people would go is to hint on a possible affair just to arouse jealousy.
Other cheaters are just simply cruel as to slap their infidelity on the face of their partners. They would derive satisfaction from seeing their partners in emotional pain. Only a few people do so without reason. Most would be out for revenge on a previously unfaithful spouse while some are out to prove to their inattentive spouses that they are still attractive to the opposite sex.
When cheating is done without any deliberate effort to conceal it, a clear message for intervention from the spouse is being sent out. Separation is obviously not the main intent since it is more swiftly accomplished by being direct to the point. Somehow, the need to stay remains although the marital problem can no longer be denied.
