In order for reconciliation after infidelity to be truly possible, specific conditions have to be met. The first condition is the cheater's admission of guilt and the promise to terminate the extramarital relationship immediately. Another condition is the aggrieved spouse's forgiveness and the promise to allow trust to grow again.
How do affected couples know that reconciliation is no longer possible? It is quite simple really. If any or both spouses are not willing to satisfy the above conditions, they are better off discussing their separation in a peaceful and intelligent manner.
Imagine how cheated spouses can ever recover if their cheating spouses continue to lie and maintain communication with their lovers. Terminating illicit relationships is extraordinarily difficult to do especially among cheaters who maintain simultaneous relationships with several lovers. If you think terminating links with one lover is difficult, you haven't seen nothing yet with cheaters having simultaneous lovers.
Imagine as well a truly repentant cheater who gets rebuffed and constantly reminded of the mistake over and over again , in all possible circumstances and occasions. No peace of mind is ever given and obvious display of lack of trust is like a repetitive slap on the face. Changing for the better is almost impossible with the absence of any encouragement from the hurt spouse. It wouldn't even be surprising if the cheater relapses just from the mere exhaustion of trying.
There is a time to fight but there is a time to concede a relationship. Before final decisions are made, couples should give time to each other to consider what will be the best for each. The cooperation of both is required whatever decision they come up with in the end.
