The Power of Observation

In a doubtful spouse's quest to find out the truth about a partner's faithfulness or unfaithfulness, there is one particular area where he/she can concentrate on. It requires no high costs and expenses but it does require time and effort. This is the keen ability to observe the changes happening to a cheating partner.

Cheaters normally have a ready cover for the obvious so the areas of special interest here are those that may appear unimportant or irrelevant. Experience would show that a great number of cheaters have been caught not by monumental discoveries but in all small slip-ups like words used, smell, a single telephone call, a look , or even a receipt. These small things matter much when interrelated with a nagging suspicion especially when collaborated unknowingly by seemingly innocent talks with family members and friends.

An out-of-town seminar of a spouse can be confirmed by participating in small talks with spouses of the suspect cheater's co-workers. A quick phone call in guise of a family social call can be made to a brother-in-law who was supposed to be a husband's companion in a recent late night-out. A surprise visit in work to a spouse can come in the form of a spontaneous desire for a romantic lunch date instead of an investigative effort to observe the spouse's behavior in the workplace.

Since cheaters generally do not admit anything unless absolutely cornered with evidence, the answers they provide to queries as to their whereabouts, destinations, companions, and time schedules have to be considered for what they are - possible points on which to start a personal investigation. Doubtful spouses should be ready not to get their answers straight from the cheater's mouth because voluntary confessions rarely happen. Cheaters can be beaten at their own game of secrecy by observant spouses who know their spouses way better than themselves.