IT'S OVER AND THAT'S FINAL!

No one can determine for sure a person's capacity to continuously be subjected to acts of infidelity by a spouse. Forgiving a cheating spouse is often romanticized as love prevailing over anything else. But is this truly how love should be especially if cheating is done over and over again?

The first cheating is usually the easiest to forgive particularly if it is the only instance. However, there are people who simply cannot accept a cheating spouse and will not risk giving second chances. The decision of whether or not a cheating spouse will be given the opportunity to redeem himself/herself ultimately depends on the cheated spouse. After all, he/she will be the one to live through it. Aside from a genuine desire to save the marriage, a cheated spouse may give that chance for other reasons such as concern for the children's welfare, fear of other people's judgement, or the refusal to accept the truth of a failed marriage.

Being subjected however, to repeated , if not blatant cheating can cause undetermined effects on a person physically, emotionally and psychologically. A person can only take so much before he/she journeys the path to self-destruction. The only way to avoid this is to get out of the relationship when it is clear that spousal cheating will not stop.

Cheaters who are repeatedly easily forgiven tend to be emboldened by their every act until it feels right. Forgiveness is taken for granted and saying sorry merely becomes perfunctory. Cheated spouses are no nearer to the solution if this situation is accepted as it is. They need to draw the line when enough is enough. So say it... Say IT'S OVER AND THAT'S FINAL!

The Workplace as a Cheating Hotspot

There was a time when the office or the workplace was just a place to earn a living. There was not much social interaction to contend with between members of the opposite sex because men occupied "men's jobs" while women occupied "women's jobs". Social activities after work were usually confined to all-boys-nightout or all-girls-nightout. As the career field was levelled to welcome employees from both sexes, opportunities and situations never before imagined in the workplace arose. These included opportunities to engage in extramarital affairs in the office.

It would be absurd to even suggest that we go back to the way it was because that is not the solution. We cannot always control the environment in our workplaces but we can prevent ourselves from engaging in workplace infidelity. It doesn't matter if everyone else is doing it, what matters is that you take responsibility for yourself and not do it.

Never commit the mistake of underestimating the uncanny ability of cheating to strike when least expected. You may actually believe that you are above such thoughts and actions only to find yourself in the middle of a messy office relationship. You need to understand how it can happen so that you can protect yourself.

The work environment creates situations that cultivates closeness among peers who are forced to share interests, work problems, and even the boss. Some inadvertently create personal attachments that are clearly beyond the boundaries of friendships and official work relationships. An office relationship is especially attractive because it forms an illusion of perfection and happiness when compared to a marriage subjected to the ugly realities of life.