Can you believe how some cheaters can actually make their faithful spouses guilty for their own infidelity? After violating their marriage vows with willful cheating and being discovered, they go into a barrage of accusations and actuations of the the faithful spouses' supposed inadequateness and faults. This is being done by the cheater in the hope of justifying an extramarital affair.
What is especially notable about this characteristic effort of the cheating spouse to turn the table on a faithful spouse is that sometimes it actually works. It is almost painfully laughable to see a faithful spouse trying to "change" for the better so that the cheater will not stray again. The faithful spouse adjusts to the "demands" of a cheating spouse, convinced that the fault lies in him/her.
The cheating spouse can work this situation to the hilt by totally recreating their marriage to make it appear that the victim is him/her and that the only reason for the infidelity is the considerable pain and unhappiness he/she is going through. Depending on how convincing a cheater is, he/she can actually manipulate how the real situation appears in the eyes of other people, the faithful spouse, and himself/herself. Sometimes, cheaters end up believing their own stories as well.
When a faithful spouse finds himself/herself going through this perplexing situation, it would be best to remember the truth. In marriage, the spouses are the only two people who know what is happening in the relationship. A faithful spouse would know if he/she is to blame. Most often than not, it boils down to the cheater's fault since everyone is responsible for the decisions made. The cheater chooses to cheat on his/her own and don't let any cheater tell you otherwise.
