The Rare Commodity

During these times when most married people are having a serious confrontation with the horrors of infidelity, the faithful spouse has become a rare commodity indeed. Often taken for granted, having a loyal partner is usually unappreciated especially in this world where there are so many distractions and "necessities". Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a faithful spouse and those who are in this position should have many things to be thankful for.

Spouses invest time, emotions, and self in loving each other. When everything goes down the drain because of an act of infidelity, the feeling of loss and waste cannot be denied. A faithful spouse is an affirmation of the decision to marry this particular person. It is a proof that everything that has been done in the name of the relationship has not been in vain.

Having a faithful spouse shields the family from the pain brought about by infidelity. The only way to avoid the trauma and pain associated with spousal cheating is not to get involved in it. When a person chooses to cheat, he/she is literally opening the floodgates of tears and anger into his/her own home. Once opened, turning back is difficult, if at all possible.

Faithful spouses spare their family from the grief of having to make and face heart-wrenching decisions like divorce, child custody, and property division. Fidelity between spouses helps to keep the family intact as children, even when grown-up tend to take their cue from parents who kept their marriage strong and truthful. Cheating is not something to be experimented on or taken lightly because of its far-reaching effects on people who matter most. A faithful spouse can help seal the fate of the family towards happiness and peace.

Blaming the Faithful Spouse

Can you believe how some cheaters can actually make their faithful spouses guilty for their own infidelity? After violating their marriage vows with willful cheating and being discovered, they go into a barrage of accusations and actuations of the the faithful spouses' supposed inadequateness and faults. This is being done by the cheater in the hope of justifying an extramarital affair.

What is especially notable about this characteristic effort of the cheating spouse to turn the table on a faithful spouse is that sometimes it actually works. It is almost painfully laughable to see a faithful spouse trying to "change" for the better so that the cheater will not stray again. The faithful spouse adjusts to the "demands" of a cheating spouse, convinced that the fault lies in him/her.

The cheating spouse can work this situation to the hilt by totally recreating their marriage to make it appear that the victim is him/her and that the only reason for the infidelity is the considerable pain and unhappiness he/she is going through. Depending on how convincing a cheater is, he/she can actually manipulate how the real situation appears in the eyes of other people, the faithful spouse, and himself/herself. Sometimes, cheaters end up believing their own stories as well.

When a faithful spouse finds himself/herself going through this perplexing situation, it would be best to remember the truth. In marriage, the spouses are the only two people who know what is happening in the relationship. A faithful spouse would know if he/she is to blame. Most often than not, it boils down to the cheater's fault since everyone is responsible for the decisions made. The cheater chooses to cheat on his/her own and don't let any cheater tell you otherwise.