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Showing posts with label male gender weakness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label male gender weakness. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Not Love, Only Need



A man who cheats on his wife does not automatically mean less love for the wife and more love for the other woman. Many cheating men attest to this. They can go as far as proclaiming that sexual activity outside marriage only serves the purpose of fulfilling manly physical needs and love has nothing to do about it at all.

Is there any truth to this claim? And if there is, should it comfort the cheated wife in any way? Can a wife separate the physical from the emotional aspect of sexual relation and say that it is alright after all for the man to cheat because that is the way man was created?

If a man was meant to cheat because it is his nature to do so, then it follows that faithful men are less manly. Anyone in the right state of mind knows that this isn't so. It is simply funny that erring husbands would be the ones to claim possession of manhood when faithful ones have more moral ground to claim it.

The whole male specie does not deserve to be branded as natural cheaters. Many husbands honor their promise to their wives not because they have lesser physical needs but because they decide to rise above common expectation. Having sexual relations outside a committed relationship such as marriage and expecting to be understood for it for manly reasons is just a lame excuse to cover a personal weakness and not a gender weakness. Let every man's action speak for itself.