Infidelity is never strictly the same for affected couples. What happened to your friends will not necessarily happen to you. How other affected couples reacted to their ordeal will not necessarily be your reaction. The absence of definitiveness in all aspects of infidelity makes it too complex to be addressed by a single uniform action.
What makes infidelity so complex? One is the difference in personalities involved. People do not have the same desires, needs, wants, views, and values. What is good for one may be be bad for another. People also have different capacities for forgiveness. Without forgiveness, marriage is doomed from the onset of infidelity.
Another is the difference in circumstances. Acceptability of spousal infidelity can be influenced by traditions, laws, and beliefs. It is almost impossible to fight what one has been accustomed to all his/her life. Problem arises when two people from entirely different upbringing in the subject of marriage decide to form a life together with each asserting their very difference. A prospective bride cannot expect to change her man overnight by simply getting married when he sincerely believes that there is nothing wrong with polygamy. After marriage, what the woman sees as infidelity or adultery may just be a normal way of life for the man.
Still another is the ability of cheaters to reform and make good on the promise to cease infidelity. Many start and end as one-timer cheaters while others make a habit out of it. Some will be unable to control themselves because of a psychological or physical condition such as sex addiction.
Attacking infidelity therefore for the purpose of stopping it requires analysis of individual cheating cases. Generalizing simply will not do. If resolving infidelity is so simple, we may not be looking at alarming infidelity statistics as we are doing now.
